Coaching for blind spots (Part 2)

So yesterday, I wrote about blind spots caused by following someone, a collective of people or an organization because he/she/they/it has more certainty, and hence influence, than you do (relatively speaking).

The other part of the subject of certainty and how it influences our beliefs, thoughts, words and behaviour, is how much certainty you need in your life.

Tony Robbins, the #1 Life & Business Strategist, who is one of the masters at transformational, lasting change and achieving fulfillment, and who has coached some of the most influential people in the world, and names as one of the Top 50 Business Intellectuals in the world by Accenture has been quoted often as saying that, "The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with." 

What does this mean to all of us? If you need certainty and it is on the top of your list of six key human needs, then this will determine everything about how you see, feel, and experience life. In order to feel certainty, people will follow procedures, instructions and what are deemed to be norms by society at large and the organizations and communities we live in and amongst, often without questioning those rules. procedures and norms.

Don't get me wrong...these are in place for a reason for society to exist. The distinction I am making is...how much of these rules and so on dictate our daily lives out of a need for certainty? If we feel stuck, do we question those norms and beliefs? Or are we too scared to do so, for fear of losing certainty?

The next time you feel stuck or conflicted about something, explore this a little. Questions have power. So ask yourself: am I feeling this way because I need certainty in this area of my life? What would happen, if I could open myself to a new way of being in this situation? What is possible, if I were to change the meaning of this situation?

See what comes up!